Inflictions suffered by a child have an
enormous impact on the
adult they become.
An
Inner Child resides in every adult. Our Inner Child is our emotional
memories
of past experiences, from our earliest memory and throughout our
childhood.
Throughout
our childhood, at each stage of our personal growth and development we are
faced with all kinds of situations. The traumas that some of these situations
inflict on us can cause recurring actions and reactions that keep us from
resolving any emotional issues associated with the situation. We therefore
carry the issues with us, in our subconscious, throughout our adult life. These
unresolved issues are then reflected subconsciously in our actions, reactions
and interactions with others and are expressed subconsciously in various other
situations we, as an adult find ourselves in. Strong and/or recurring reactions
to certain or specific situations are triggered by our subconscious memory of
an experience or experiences in childhood and the pain of the past surfaces.
Some
people may feel that obtaining fulfilment in life is barriered because
often
times achievements they made as a child were ‘made wrong’.
For
example; a child may have got an 'A' for an essay they completed in school and
proudly showed it to their parent, but all the parent said was ‘What terrible
hand writing you’ve got’. Therefore, the accomplishment that the child was so
proud of was 'made wrong'.
Anything
that brings down something we feel proud of or feel we have done well,
in turn
brings us down and we carry that feeling with us in our subconscious.
It
therefore has a detrimental effect on allowing us to fully become who we
truly
are so can result in the harbouring of feelings of not being worthy
or
not being good enough.

Negative experiences as a child can manifest in many ways in an adult
- An inexplicable need for attention, affection,
company, reassurance and
involvement. - A need for security and acceptance either from a
partner, best friend, group of friends.
- Being unable to form lasting relationships.
- Feelings or belief of not being lovable or worthy
of being loved.
Can
stem from:
- Lack of attention, affection, encouragement and
support.
- Another sibling seeming to be favoured over you.
- Parents arguing.
- Parents divorcing.
- Finding out you were adopted.
- Being brought up in foster care.
These inflictions result in feelings of
abandonment and neglect, which then
develops into feelings of loneliness and
unworthiness, lack of self-belief and
an underlying insecurity of being abandoned
again as an adult. On the flip side,
the adult may not know how to accept
love or affection or how to love and show affection back. Some may find
it hard to integrate with others because of a low self-esteem. Coming
across overly needy and insecure often times results in dysfunctional
relationships or 'looking for love in all, the wrong places'.
Expressions of love and emotion may seem alien, so too can emotional
conversations involving the feelings and emotions of others.
- Outbreaks of violence or aggression.
- Antisocial behaviour.
- Not being able to hold down a job.
- Weight challenges / eating disorders.
- Lack of self-esteem.
Can
stem from:
- Abuse - emotional, physical, sexual or
psychological.
- Lack of the correct amount of love and affection.
- Having been bullied.
- Having been overly criticised.
These inflictions can result in the
adult that the child becomes being introverted,
to one degree or another and
some may isolate or disassociate themselves from, situations, people and
places. They may self-harm or turn to drink or drugs to
help 'numb the
pain'. Intimacy can be frightening and being able to trust
can be unlikely.
The core of all these issues is past events.
We are an accumulation of everything that has
or indeed hasn't happened to us in our life.
It makes us who we are....
....But we don't have to let it continue to affect who we
become.
Inner
Child Therapy is a healing process that enables you to connect with your
Inner
Child, with love and inner wisdom in order to identify with the core of your
issue, become the nurturing 'parent' to your Inner Child, replace self
criticism
with self nurturing and recognise and heal self destructive thoughts. Thereby
healing the emotions related to the circumstances that created the issues
and healing the emotional part of your
being....
....Your Inner Child.
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